Sunday, 24 July 2016

My Bus Driver Experience (Anger Management)

was heading to the saloon from work and on getting to the first saloon being carried in a vehicle, I did not find the stylist I was looking for, I decided to go try my other saloon and since the vehicle had left and so I decided to join a bus. 

After a long day at work, it was not the best feeling to hear a driver who is screaming at everyone in the bus, not even feeling like though he spoke to humans, but hey, I was in and the only thing I could do was wait until I get to my destination. 

I tried making my payments on time because I knew I did not have the exact amount and I needed the driver to get the change before I get to where I will highlight but then he responded as though I was the devil he had a fight with in his dream, so much anger in his voice that I almost did not understand what I said wrong, with my tired self, I did not even have the strength to respond as I knew that was going to lead to different type of things, so I rather held myself and let him take the lead. 

Getting to my place of highlighting, I finally gave him the money and while I was still trying to get out of the bus he decided to start collecting money from everyone and that was going to keep me waiting for a long time, I waited for a while and then I asked for my change, at first it seemed like I was talking to myself but that did not stop me because I was running late, when I asked the next time, he looked at me, sighed and threw the money on the floor then drove off and I was left with the option of picking the money from the floor. At first, I was so upset, my heart was swelling, I could literally just quit all I have to do and go home, I was wondering what on earth will make a driver throw money on the floor. 

But then as I watched the bus drive off, I quickly reminded myself that there are lessons to learn from everything and this was just a test of how well I can take control of my emotions

I was able to manage myself well and had a happy day after all not minding how close anger looked me in the eyes and I said, I am not cut out for this. 

This did not happen as magic, they are things I have gotten to understand and put to practise.

So for the next 5 Tuesdays, I will be doing a few in-depth training on anger management, its cycles, triggers, the Do’s and Don’ts, gaining control and solving the problem.

Sunday, 3 July 2016

Making Wise Use of your Time

"Tick Says the Clock, Tick Tick, what you have to do, do quick"

Does this song sound familiar to anyone? I am sure the Ajebutters will relate better. 

Happy Sunday Lovelies. 

I was journeying home from church today and that song came to mind. Nursery rhymes we sang without placing any meaning to it. 

But as I sang it in my head, I heard it speak to me and I thought to share with you. You know I love it when I discuss with you. 

Never assume you have all the time in the world for you to take your time procrastinating and dragging your feet in getting things done. 

Time waits for no one and like my song goes, tick says the clock. The clock keeps ticking it does not stop(I wonder) even  though some days you pray for it to pause for a while and wait for you but then trust me, If wishes were horses.

It is important that as we try to do everything and anything we should also try to manage our time, by treating priorities before minorities. 
Give little or no room to distractions. Have a plan, set your realistic goals in measurable manner. 

Work on better and more productive ways to getting things done. Technology has come to help us, find out the app or drive that can help you achieve a task faster. 

Use time wisely because remember Tick says the Clock, Tick tick, what you have to do, do quick. 

I am considering coming live to share my messages rather than writing. But for now the ministry must still keep moving. 

I love you all and I know you can do it because IT IS POSSIBLE. I believe so much in you. 

I will like to know how many of us sang this song in Nursey school, please reply with "Aunty I" in the comment box. 
Let us sieve the Ajebutter from AjeKpako.


Find out things(app, gadget or articles) you can use to enhance your time. 

I will be sharing a new finding tomorrow, I saw it and I loved it, I believe you should too, I am sorry, I feel like I should just keep writing. 

But I have to run, Sunday Jollof Rice Loading topped with Chicken and ......byee.

Sunday, 26 June 2016

The Person in the Waiting Room.

I was having a meeting with one of my mentors today and it brought a light bulb moment(God bless mentors) 

He made me understand that sometimes you do not just have to settle for anything, all you need do is just keep waiting. 

You do not necessarily have to take that leap from your job just because the next looks enticing and hell no this other job did not just soothe you anymore. It's possible that where you are does not suit you but it does not necessarily mean that just any leap is the leap for you. 

A few questions have to be answered first and I will be talking about the most important question:

Does it give you peace? 

It is possible that something looks so nice, it even coincidentally tallies with what you have set your mind to achieve but then does it give you peace on your inside. 

The very clear truth is we all know when we are at peace with something or someone and when we naturally do not welcome them from within but we try so hard to bake the situation and just go with the excuse of it tallies with what I told God or what I imagined in this year 2016. 

The question is not about the tally, it is about the peace because that is the clearest way of making a decision and if you get sincere with yourself, you just make that decision to stay waiting. 

Who says it's easy, when almost the truth stares you in your face. 

But ask yourself would you rather settle for almost the truth or stay waiting for the truth. 

The truth is not a myth, it is a reality.

Saturday, 18 June 2016

The 6th Month Relaxation and Year Plan Review

The 6th month of the year is here, it's almost up and it has got most of us having cold feet. A Lot was expected to be done before now but yet little or nothing has been achieved or not as much has been achieved.

It has not gotten bad yet, all it might just need you to do is take some time off. The only way you can get to run at a faster speed is if you take some time to train and understand the tracks and what the race looks like. The same goes with putting your vision into action for the months left in the year.

Saturday, 11 June 2016

How to Influence People

Who is a Leader?
A Leader is a person who has the ability to influence people. Anyone who can influence people is a leader or will become a leader someday.

Influence is the capacity to have an effect on the character, development, or behaviour of a person. Positive influence brings out the best in any follower, making them achieve a common goal

I will be sharing 3 steps on how to influence people

Saturday, 28 May 2016

Does my mood have anything to do with my thoughts?

I remember when I used to be the Lady of the mood swingers, when the next minute I am happy and then some moments later, I become the devil you never want to meet, my mood swing was actually like the kids swing, it swings from up to down at will. I almost did not know how to control it but then I also did not like what was going on, some even went ahead to say I was suffering from bi-polar disorder.

I intentionally decided to find out what exactly was going on with me. Why can I not just be happy and remain happy, why do I have to switch moods without a reason.

The truth is I thought there was no reason but they actually were reasons and the major reason was my thoughts.  The thin line between the moment we are happy and the moment we are not is the things we think about. As my journey to finding a solution to this “disorder” began, I realised whenever I listened to songs I always felt like I just got a revival but then it was not about the songs, it was the thought of the feel behind the song.

It is simple to know that the thoughts that go on in our head defines our behaviour. The behaviour/character we let out is as a result of the thoughts we had in our head.

I got to discover personally that my moods were as a result of thoughts of offences, character or action that I could not maybe speak or complain to the individual about. So I believed I had let it go but then It came up someway and somehow to trouble my mind and in turn switches who I am in some minutes.

This is what happens when we tend to store up a whole lot of things from the past on our inside. The thoughts that come out to be negative actions are those thoughts that store up in our minds to become garbage and the best way to let your thoughts be right is to let go of the garbage.

Free up the space.

Are you going to free up your space today?

Is it possible to let go of the garbage? YES IT IS!