I was heading to the saloon from work and on getting to the first saloon being carried in a vehicle, I did not find the stylist I was looking for, I decided to go try my other saloon and since the vehicle had left and so I decided to join a bus.
After a long day at work, it was not the best feeling to hear a driver who is screaming at everyone in the bus, not even feeling like though he spoke to humans, but hey, I was in and the only thing I could do was wait until I get to my destination.
I tried making my payments on time because I knew I did not have the exact amount and I needed the driver to get the change before I get to where I will highlight but then he responded as though I was the devil he had a fight with in his dream, so much anger in his voice that I almost did not understand what I said wrong, with my tired self, I did not even have the strength to respond as I knew that was going to lead to different type of things, so I rather held myself and let him take the lead.
Getting to my place of highlighting, I finally gave him the money and while I was still trying to get out of the bus he decided to start collecting money from everyone and that was going to keep me waiting for a long time, I waited for a while and then I asked for my change, at first it seemed like I was talking to myself but that did not stop me because I was running late, when I asked the next time, he looked at me, sighed and threw the money on the floor then drove off and I was left with the option of picking the money from the floor. At first, I was so upset, my heart was swelling, I could literally just quit all I have to do and go home, I was wondering what on earth will make a driver throw money on the floor.
But then as I watched the bus drive off, I quickly reminded myself that there are lessons to learn from everything and this was just a test of how well I can take control of my emotions
I was able to manage myself well and had a happy day after all not minding how close anger looked me in the eyes and I said, I am not cut out for this.
This did not happen as magic, they are things I have gotten to understand and put to practise.
So for the next 5 Tuesdays, I will be doing a few in-depth training on anger management, its cycles, triggers, the Do’s and Don’ts, gaining control and solving the problem.